Currently, same-sex couples cannot get Federal recognition for tax purposes and social security survivor benefits, even if they are married in Massachusetts, and the question of what happens to their marriage when one or both partners move to another state is also troubling to same-sex marriages. These are big problems that do not look to be solved anytime soon, and it is these older couples that really need these benefits. We should examine every proposal that might make this possible.
OK, so here is my plan to do that: We do it as part of a compromise to resolve the marriage debate. Same-sex couples would give up conception rights and the name marriage, in exchange for federal recognition of civil unions as if they were marriages, and hopefully other states would be more inclined to set up civil unions just like marriage but without conception rights. see my website www.eggandsperm.org for more information about what “conception rights” means.
If you were in the position to sign off on this compromise, would you? Remember that if you reject it, you would be trading away very meaningful and valuable benefits that thousands of same-sex couples really need, just to hang onto conception rights and the word marriage.