Maggie Gallagher is the former President of the National Organization and one of the leading figures opposing marriage equality. She has come to realize her side has lost. In an interview with Lila Shapiro of Huffington Post, she concedes defeat:
As I said last summer, it was clear to me from reading Windsor [the U.S. Supreme Court decision in United States v. Windsor], gay marriage advocates now have five votes for inserting a right to gay marriage in our Constitution. We are now in the ‘gay marriage in all 50 states’ phase whether we like it or not. What’s next? In my view people who believe in the traditional understanding of marriage, and believe that it matters, have to become a creative minority, finding way to both express these sexual views, culturally, artistically and intellectually and to engage with the newly dominant cultural view of marriage respectfully but not submissively.
She expanded on this in a remarkable post on her blog titled “Cooper, Mozilla, Firefox”. Charles Cooper was the lawyer defending Proposition 8 in Court. Gallagher explains:
Unbeknownst to any of us, Cooper was at the time in the middle of the turmoil of the political becoming the personal. In 2013, before he attempted to argue the Prop 8 case before the Supreme Court, he learned his wife’s daughter (his stepdaughter) was gay and would be married to a woman in Massachusetts. He and his wife are co-hosting the same-sex wedding ceremony.
Cooper said two things that upset many people on our side: “My views evolve on issues of this kind the same way as other people’s do, and how I view this down the road may not be the way I view it now, or how I viewed it ten years ago,” he said to [New York Times reporter] Jo Becker some months ago. And when … the news of his stepdaughter’s wedding came out he told AP: ““My daughter Ashley’s path in life has led her to happiness with a lovely young woman named Casey, and our family and Casey’s family are looking forward to celebrating their marriage in just a few weeks.”
They even lost their lawyer! However, what is particularly striking about this is that she admits that love of a child can be pretty compelling:
Our children are beloved and yet do not necessarily put together the world the way we would have them. We have to love them anyway, across all the gaps.
A movement able to withstand what is coming will have to face the Love problem first. Anything we say, anything we believe, we are going to have to be willing to say it not only with a generic gay person in the room, but as if to a beloved gay child.
Try it before you judge Charles Cooper.
I think Ms. Gallagher has hit on precisely the contradiction in her movement. In fact, there is nothing that they can say to a beloved gay child. It is at least a hopeful sign that she has proposed such a standard.