First, we’re going to have to analyze the votes against us, looking at the particulars of each area. We have a problem in the Merrimack Valley. We have a problem in Worcester. We have a problem in Quincy.
Second, we need straight and gay people to talk to their legislators. Make sure even our strongest supporters are on board. Thank SSM supporters for their votes. Let all the legsilators know we all care. Straight people are key allies. How important is it to you that your children grow up in a world where gay people are equal before the law? What if it was your child, or your sibling, or another relative who grew up gay? Are their equality and security important to you? Talk to your reps and senators. Let them know, repeatedly. When you see them at picnics, political events, inaugurals, or ham and bean suppers, let them know. Many of the most effective conversations with legislators have taken place well outside the State House.
Third, everyone needs to challenge opponents of same-sex marriage. Politely, nicely, but firmly. Often, the best challenge is simply to ask whether their marriages are any worse since gays have married. Maybe we do need a committee to study the consequences to the public of same-sex marriage. I don’t see any, other than a general increase in happiness and a sense of well-being.
Finally, we need to make marriage equality a grass-roots issue. I’m not sure I know how to create a Deval-style campaign, but this issue shouldn’t be held hostage to old-style closed door (or broken web feed) politics.
I know I’m angry at today’s shenanigans, and tired of having to fight for marriage equality over and over. But it’s time to get busy again. We don’t have to change very many votes to win.
